Selfishness is a common act many partners put up in relationships; it’s even harder to see an unselfish partner than a selfish one. A lot of people put up selfish practices in their relationships and aren’t aware that such an act depicts selfishness.
Do you think you don’t put up selfish traits in your relationship? Then you just might be wrong. Check out some common selfish traits relationship partners tend to put up.
1. YOU LET YOUR PARTNER DO ALL THE COMMUNICATING
It’s selfish of you when you have to let your partner do all the communicating; it could be a bit frustrating when your partner calls you regularly and you don’t, or when your partner tries to know what’s going on in your life and you don’t do same.
Communication shouldn’t be from one partner but from both partners and if you don’t communicate, you are just being a selfish partner.
2. EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
Emotional blackmail is a common selfish act many partners use to their advantage, but is this right? No! It’s just plain selfishness.
Withholding sex, giving your partner the silent treatment and making your partner feel guilty for your wrongs are all examples of emotional blackmail.
3. YOU DON’T APOLOGISE
Apologies are a natural part of a relationship; if you hurt your partner or did something wrong, you ought to apologise. Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t apologise; they just expect their mistakes to be forgiven and forgotten without apologising. This is wrong and very selfish; if you never apologise to your partner then you are a selfish partner.
4. YOU SEEK ONLY YOUR SEXUAL SATISFACTION
It’s easy to get carried away sexually and seek only your sexual satisfaction, but this is a selfish act. You should also make your partner satisfied just as you seek your own satisfaction.
5. YOU GET ANGRY EASILY
Some partners can’t take a joke and they get angry at the slightest mistake or slightest thing that happens. Unknown to them, such a trait is a selfish one, because the relationship wouldn’t move smoothly when this happens.
6. YOU FIND IT HARD TO FORGIVE
Anyone who doesn’t forgive isn’t worthy of forgiveness. Some people take things too personal and to the extreme that they forget to forgive or choose not to. If you can’t forgive your partner and move on smoothly, then you don’t also deserve to be forgiven. Being hard-hearted is also a sign of selfishness.
7. YOU ARE PROUD
If there is one place pride shouldn’t exist, it’s in the relationship. Some partners tend to show ego because of their beauty, success, wealth, family background, educational background or whatsoever reason; it’s selfish of you to bring ego to your relationship and your relationship would never work if pride and ego exist.
8. YOU ALWAYS WANT THINGS YOUR WAY
It’s selfishness when you always think your way is the best way and you never listen to your partner. When you always want things to go your way, you are simply being a selfish partner. It’s a relationship and not a one person show.
9. YOU ARE LAZY
Laziness is another weakness so many people exhibit in their relationships and unknown to them, it’s also selfishness. If you leave all the chores for your partner or you rarely perform your duties as a partner then you are a selfish partner.
10. YOU KEEP DOING THE WRONG THINGS
Some partners see being corrected as nagging, but they are the ones who turn their partners into nagging partners. When you don’t take corrections, but keep doing the same wrong thing over and over, you not only make your partner feel aggrieved and frustrated, you also show signs of being insensitive and selfish.
11. YOU EXPECT MUCH AND GIVE NOTHING
If you expect the world from your partner and you aren’t ready to give your partner that much, then you don’t deserve such treatment. Some people expect their partners to treat them like kings and queens but they forget to treat their partner same; such partners expect to be pampered, spoilt and treated with love, care and attention, but they give nothing in return. Partners like these are selfish to the core.
If you are an abusive partner, stingy, self-centred and intolerant partner then you are also a selfish partner. People put up these selfish traits and they don’t even know that it’s an act of selfishness.
Are you a selfish partner? Your relationship would never be a happy one if you are.
Shawn