11 DECISIONS YOU MUST MAKE IF YOU HAVE AN UNFAITHFUL PARTNER

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Being with an unfaithful partner is one of the hardest things you can face in a relationship; it’s even worse when you have given your all for the sake of the relationship only for your partner to cheat.

Below are eleven decisions you should make when you have a cheating partner in your life.

1. GET TESTED

First things first, you should get tested. Your partner has betrayed your trust and increased your risk of contracting any sexually transmitted disease or infection. Be sure that you are still safe — never assume.

2. BE SURE

Before you accuse your partner of cheating, be sure that your partner actually cheated; don’t base your conclusion on mere assumptions or jealousy. Sometimes, people are quick to point accusing fingers at their partner when they are innocent.

3. LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR PARTNER HAS TO SAY

There is no excuse or justification for cheating, but listen to what your partner has to say; this would even give you a better understanding of the situation and help in the next tip.

4. ANALYSE THE SITUATION

After listening to your partner, the next important step is to analyse the situation. Your relationship used to be filled with love, but what really happened? Even though it was your partner’s fault, but could you have played a part in making your partner stray? Analyse the situation and find out if you are actually in the wrong relationship or if there is hope in that relationship. Is your partner truly sorry? Can you actually forgive your partner’s wrong? These are important questions that only you can really answer.

5. LET OUT YOUR EMOTIONS

It’s best to let your emotions out and let your partner know how you feel; suppressing your emotions could harm you in the future and even your present or future relationship.

6. MAKE A DECISION

You have analysed the situation, the next important thing to do is to make a decision whether you can continue in the relationship or not. If you can’t, the best bet is to end the relationship.

7. SET BOUNDARIES

If you have decided to continue in the relationship, it’s important to set boundaries; tell your partner what’s acceptable and what isn’t. No secrets, no late nights out without you, no flirting and any other thing you feel is necessary.

8. FORGIVE IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP

This is the hardest part for many partners who have been cheated on. But the truth remains that you cannot have a good relationship with that your partner if you don’t forgive; it isn’t easy, but it’s an important decision to make if you must continue in the relationship. And you must know that there is no room for revenge.

9. GET YOUR PARTNER TESTED

It’s good to not only know your status but that of your partner. It’s another important decision to be taken.

10. WORK THINGS OUT

Since you have decided to stay in that relationship, you and your partner must be ready to go the extra mile to make that relationship work. The relationship needs more commitment and togetherness at this stage. Also, remember that your partner has to make a lot of input to change and work things out if that relationship must continue.

11. LEAVE IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN

If your partner still cheats on you after all these tips, it’s best you end the relationship. It’s obvious your partner doesn’t respect you enough to not hurt your feelings. The truth is, if you keep forgiving and accepting back your partner, he / she would keep doing the same thing, and you would find yourself repeatedly hurt.

These important tips would help you assess your relationship and the necessary steps to take if you have a cheating partner.

Have you been cheated on before? What steps did you take? Did you continue or end the relationship?

Shawn      

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