Falling for the wrong person can be a terrible relationship mishap, but it’s one that happens often. When you fall for the wrong person, you end up having a relationship filled with heartaches, insecurity, fear, disappointments and the opposite of everything you wished for.
We’ve brought you signs that you have fallen for the wrong person and the things you must do if you have fallen for the wrong person; but why do you fall for the wrong person in the first place?
1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
You ought to know what you want and what is good for you in a relationship. Search deep into your mind, think about who you are and the kind of person that would fit into your life. For example, if you are a very neat person and cannot stand a dirty partner, you only have two choices here: only date a partner that’s neat or be ready to tolerate a partner that doesn’t take neatness too seriously.
This tip is very important and would help you make the right choices.
2. BE GENUINE
Don’t change who you are or pretend to be someone else just to attract a partner into your life; how long would you pretend to be who you aren’t in that kind of relationship? Be real, be original and let your partner love you for who you truly are.
3. LET THAT PERSON ALSO SHOW AN INTEREST
A relationship is lovely only when the love is mutual. What does this mean? If you are in a relationship where you are the only one in love and your partner is just playing catch up, then you are in a wrong relationship. Choose a partner that would love you just as you love them; never force yourself into a relationship, it would never work.
4. STOP FALLING FOR TRIVIAL THINGS
A lot of people keep falling for the wrong person because they keep falling for trivial things; they place priorities on things that don’t matter over things that really matter. When you place priority on beauty, looks, body shape, class, wealth, background, race, tribe over other important things then you might never get it right in the relationship. Not that looks and wealth are bad, but they should never come before compatibility, love, respect, understanding, value and every other thing that matters and would lead to you having a loving and successful relationship with that person.
5. DON’T FALL FOR WORDS
Talk is cheap, but surprisingly people fall for words a lot. Don’t fall for what he/she says, rather fall for what they do. Don’t judge by mere talks, but by action.
Never enter a relationship with someone who wouldn’t value you or who doesn’t value you.
It’s shocking when I see people devalue themselves just to be in a relationship with someone who takes them for granted.
7. LISTEN TO ADVICE
Normally, you shouldn’t let your friends and family choose your partner for you, but when you keep making the same mistakes over again then it shows that something is wrong with your decision-making and you need to at least take some advice from those who care. You should be the one to decide, but be open to advice.
8. TAKE YOUR TIME
Don’t rush, don’t be in a hurry; take your time, study your intended partner, know what they want from a relationship, know what they want from you, know more about their kind of person and if such a person would fit into your life. If you’ve made the wrong choices over and over, then you need to take your time before entering the next relationship.
9. USE YOUR HEART AND YOUR HEAD
If your heart keeps falling for the wrong partner, maybe it’s time to start using your head also; let your heart do the falling and let your head do the thinking.
10. CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY
Normally, we tend to fall for partners within the same box; our hearts kind of have a certain variable to choose from and this is one of the reasons you fall for the same kind of person over and over.
Try to choose someone different from your personality trait, someone different from the kind of persons you have been with — try to free yourself from the circle of moving around the same partners.
You actually have the power to stop falling for the wrong persons and to stop attracting the wrong people into your life; free yourself from the shackles of heartaches and painful relationships with these tips.