Love is unpredictable and can lead you to fall for someone you least expect. An age-gap between couples don’t matter that much anymore (except it’s plain ridiculous).
Dating a much younger partner has its advantages and disadvantages; it’s more about how both partners are able to understand each other’s expectations and emotions and find a middle-ground to balance things.
Below are certain things you should know when in a relationship with a younger man / woman.
1. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
I would always advise that for any kind of relationship, it’s best to put up your best appearance always — the fact that you are in a relationship or married doesn’t mean you should care less about your physical appearance. It’s even more important when you are dating a younger partner; physical attraction is an important part of a relationship that no one should take for granted.
2. BE A PARTNER AND NOT AN OLDER SIBLING OR PARENT
Acting like a mum or dad or like an older sibling wouldn’t help your relationship; be more of a partner than a parent figure. Yes, you might be older and even more experienced, but trying to be a parent or older sibling rather than a partner would only kill the relationship.
3. YOUR FRIENDS MIGHT NOT APPROVE
Of course, more often than not, your friends wouldn’t really appreciate such kind of relationship. But you choose your partner not them, and you wear the shoes of each relationship you enter — so they shouldn’t have the final say in your relationship. They might want the best for you, but they might not always know how you feel and what’s best for you.
4. YOU WOULD MOST LIKELY BE THE FINANCIALLY BUOYANT PERSON
Of course, you have had more time to find your feet and they are just starting life — so; you would most likely be the more financially stable person.
5. KNOW WHY THEY ARE COMING
More often than not, young folks date a much older person purely for financial reasons. You ought to know why that young man or lady is interested in you. The relationship can only be successful if there is a genuine interest.
6. LET THEM HAVE THEIR FUN
Fun to you might be different from what that young person defines as fun. Of course, the 20s age is a more vibrant and energetic time of a person’s life — this is when people have fun the most. Trying to hold your young partner down might make him / her lose friends and not live their life to the fullest.
7. ENJOY HIS / HER COMPANY
This one is also a given. If you don’t enjoy their company then you definitely wouldn’t enjoy the relationship with them. Spend time with them, have good moments with them and genuinely enjoy being with them.
8. BE READY TO SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCE AND LEARN
Your younger partner would most likely want to know so many things about you — your growing up, your past experiences in relationships and your view of life. Be ready to share your experience with them and also learn and listen from theirs — this would help bolster communication and understanding.
9. BE CONFIDENT
When you are confident in yourself, you look and feel more attractive. However, when you are always insecure and jealous then the relationship would never work out.
10. BE FASHIONABLE
Of course, you have to look your best; that young man or lady might want to brag about you and would want to feel proud of you, but when your fashion style is a bit outdated or nothing to write home about, it could pose a problem.
It’s not the end of the world to fall for a much younger partner; as far as your feelings for each other are genuine then that’s what matters the most.
ViV