Maturity is a quality that’s often lacking in many relationship partners; men/women that are even advanced in age fall prey to immaturity most times without knowing and this leads to the demise of most relationships.
There are some basic things a mature relationship partner knows and adheres to and that’s why such a partner is always adored. With maturity the relationship would blossom and a lack of it would lead to frequent scenes of violence, abuse, hurts, quarrels and rapid misunderstanding. If you want to know what the mature relationship partner knows, get in here.
10 things every mature relationship partner knows
1. RETALIATION WON’T SOLVE A THING
‘Oh, sweet revenge’ you might say, but that’s a major cause of relationship failures. If Miss A does something bad to her partner and he decides to retaliate, where do you think the relationship would go from then on? A mature relationship partner knows that retaliating on your partner would only lead to enmity and rivalry; maturity isn’t in retaliation, but maturity is in letting things lie sometimes.
2. ENVY KILLS
Many partners (females especially) are rocked by envy, greed and constant comparisons of another person’s relationship. Once you base your relationship on another person’s relationship and constantly compare your partner to that person then you have completely succeeded in ruining your relationship. A mature relationship partner knows that though some relationship might look all loving on the outside, it could be a different story within, so they don’t indulge in childish comparisons and envy.
3. HAVING A LISTENING EAR IS THE FIRST STEP TO UNDERSTANDING
You can never understand your partner if you don’t listen to your partner. You cannot build that much desired level of understanding in the relationship if you don’t listen; there is a difference between hearing your partner and listening to your partner.
4. WORDS COULD REALLY HURT
There are some things you can’t take back, and words are one of those things. You should always scrutinize what comes out of your mouth as they go a long way in determining the success and failure of that relationship. A mature partner avoids words that would hurt a partner because a broken/failed relationship starts with the feeling of hurt.
5. THERE IS NO COMPROMISE ABOUT BEING FAITHFUL
There is no excuse really for cheating on a partner; it shows betrayal of trust, betrayal of feelings and insincerity. The fun derived from being faithful cannot be compared to the negative seeds it would plant in that relationship. You can’t call yourself a mature partner if you always cheat on your partner —that’s betrayal of the highest level.
6. BERATING YOUR PARTNER KILLS THE RELATIONSHIP
I wonder why a person would go into a relationship and decide to constantly abuse his/her partner with words; verbal abuse is almost as terrible as physical abuse, it affects the mind. You show maturity when you value your partner and you value your partner in actions and in words. There is no compromising this.
7. MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY
A mature partner knows that the best way to having a happy relationship is by making your partner happy. When your partner is happy, you would as well be happy, put a smile on your partner’s face and you would as well be happy. A mature partner knows this, while the immature partner keeps waiting for his/her partner to make them happy. It should start with you.
8. THE RELATIONSHIP SHOULDN’T ALWAYS BE ABOUT YOU
The relationship should never be about you; when you make the relationship about you, it shows selfishness and self-centeredness. A mature relationship partner knows that for a relationship to work, he/she has to think of the partner just as much as he/she thinks of himself, or even more.
9. SOME ARGUMENTS AREN’T WORTH IT
The immature partner would always meddle in every argument in a relationship but a mature partner knows that not every argument is worth it. The mature partner spots when the relationship is taking a bad twist and understands that if continued, it could harm the relationship— so the mature partner ends such arguments and doesn’t give arguments the chance to end the relationship.
10. KEEP THE PASSION BURNING
A successful relationship is a passionate relationship; once the passion in the relationship starts to die off, the relationship would as well start to die off gradually. A mature partner understands this and makes sure the passion is always rekindled in the relationship.
Yes, you might come up with the popular and typical lazy man’s excuse that ‘no human is perfect’; forgetting that to be the best in everything you ought to strive towards perfection. To be a mature relationship partner isn’t a day’s job, you work hard to becoming such a partner with each passing day, and you can actually be that mature relationship partner if you put your heart to it.
Shawn