Success isn’t measured by age. There are people who will be where they want to be a lot earlier in life, and there are those who will get there much later. However, there are genuine expectations. As a human being, a man in this case, people expect you to have achieved certain things by the time you turn 30. Here’s a list of those things.


1. Be mentally mature. Maturity is not an age thing, but if by 30 years, you still can’t tell right from wrong, and make decisions that will advance your cause, you might be setting yourself up for failure.

2. Be in a serious relationship. If not married by this time, then you ought to be in a serious relationship and getting ready to settle down soon.

3. Be educated (formally or informally).  You must have attained a first degree or at least, graduated as a qualified artisan in a chosen field of interest.

4. Have a home of your own. Could be rented, bought or built. Nobody expects that by 30, you’re still living with your parent(s) and feeding off of them. You can live in a property owned by them anyway, as long as you’re getting your own apartment.

5. Be employed or have a business. Whichever you want to pursue, do it. Either you have a good paying job, even when it’s below what you really want or think you deserve. Or pursue some business idea. Make something out of it, and do good for yourself and family.

6. Be responsible. At this time of your life, you’re expected to have let go of certain lifestyles and habits. Be responsible to yourself and those around you.

7. Be fully independent – At 30, you’re no longer mom’s boy. You’re no longer dad’s man either, you should be your own man, and should be able to take decisions (with or without advice). You must be your own boss in that department

8. Have a set goal – As a man at 30, you should have set and defined goals, a mental picture of where you want to be in the nearest future. Could be two, three years from your current position.

9. Know how to drive a car. Even if you don’t immediately own a car, you should have attained training in driving to a large extent – an opportunity could open up or an emergency that would require you driving a car.

10. Have some savings. You should have a saving plan, for the future, family and a retirement plan.




  1. Honestly after reading this.. I felt bad about myself bcos am getting to 30 and still lack many of the listed things here,,but I believe God for a miracle

  2. Still at thirty no nothing, no plans no future no proper education, I’m just frustrated

  3. I have learnt something very important in life

  4. I like this so much, it’s drawing my attention to certain things I’m still lacking before this age n now I’m working towards achieving them. Thanks for this education and enlightenment

  5. I have all the above , yet i still feel something missing

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