It’s so easy to be selfish in a relationship; humans generally have this selfish part of them, and it’s only with discipline one can cut off selfishness.
It’s even hard to recognise that you are being selfish in your relationship; more often than not, people put up selfish attitudes in their relationships and don’t even know it.
Below are some signs that you are being selfish in your relationship:
1. YOU ONLY SEE YOUR PARTNER’S FLAWS
When all you see are your partner’s mistakes and you never admit yours, then that’s being selfish. When you feel that you are a perfect partner then that’s being selfish. Everyone has flaws, you also ought to admit yours.
2. YOU ONLY DO YOUR WILL
When it’s your will that’s always done in the relationship, that’s a sign of selfishness. It shows that you have no regards for your partner’s belief and way of doing things. Whether you are a man or woman, it isn’t right when it’s your will that’s always done in the relationship.
3. YOU LET YOUR EGO INTO THE RELATIONSHIP
We all have egos, but it’s selfish when you bring in all that ego into the relationship; the relationship would be one-sided when you are egotistical, and that shows a lot of selfishness.
4. YOU WITHHOLD SEX FOR SELFISH REASONS
When you withhold sex from your partner just to show them that you have control over the relationship or use it to emotionally blackmail your partner, then that’s selfish.
5. YOU NEVER PUT YOUR PARTNER’S NEEDS BEFORE YOURS
Everyone has needs, but sacrifice and understanding are two key words that are needed in a relationship. If you always have to put your needs above your partners’ and you rarely sacrifice for the sake of the relationship then that’s being selfish.
6. WHEN YOU WANT TO BE LOVED THOROUGHLY, BUT DON’T LOVE YOUR PARTNER ENOUGH
Some people expect to be shown enough love in a relationship, but they don’t show enough to their partner — that’s selfish.
7. WHEN YOU EXPECT YOUR PARTNER TO DO ALL THE COMMUNICATION
Communication is important in a relationship; it’s selfish of you to allow your partner do all the communicating. Communication ought to be the role of both partners, not one.
8. YOU ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR GOOD DOINGS BUT NOT YOUR PARTNER’S
This is another selfish scenario that happens in relationships. When you acknowledge your good deeds but play down on the ones done by your partner then that’s selfish.
9. YOU RARELY SAY SORRY
Apologies are also important in a relationship. Being sorry also ought to come from your mind; it’s selfish to do a wrong deed and never apologise for it.
10. YOU DON’T TRY TO CHANGE YOUR BAD HABITS
Sometimes, nagging partners nag because their partners refuse to change from their bad habits. It’s bad and selfish when you don’t try to change your bad habits. Worse still, some people go on to criticise their partners for complaining about their bad habits.
Being selfish would only harm the success of that relationship. Have you ever paused to think of the selfish things you do in your relationship?