A couple of days ago, a lady narrated on twitter how she almost fell for a married man. According to her, they were already on a date, when she spotted the wedding ring on his finger. She then asked him if he was married, and he went, “oh shi*, I forgot.” And that’s how she escaped not only crashing a marriage, but also getting used and dumped.
The truth is while some men will not hide it from you that they’re married and want to be with you still, millions or probably billions others would rather hide it. So how would you know to avoid people like that before it’s too late?
THE WEDDING FINGER
The easiest way to spot a married man is to look at his weddings finger. Some are smart enough to hide it, but some like the guy in the story either forget to take it off or just don’t think it’ll matter. So take a look at the wedding finger to spot his wedding ring. Sometime even if it’s not there, if you look closely, you’ll notice ring marks because he wore them for so long.
WHEN DOES HE CALL YOU?
If you guys already got past the ‘spot the ring’ stage, then this is the next thing to watch out for. A married man wouldn’t have time to call you earlier in the evening because he probably just got home from work, and has to spend time with his wife. He won’t call you in the morning either because of work, but he might call during his lunch break.
It’s one thing if this happens just once in a while, and something else entirely when it becomes a norm.
WHERE/WHEN DO YOU HANGOUT?
If I’m married, and I want to have a secret date with my lover, where do I take her? Definitely not where people can see us together. So I’ll take her to somewhere a little far away from people I know, and the timing has to be when there isn’t daylight.
YOU DON’T KNOW HIS HOUSE
Are you guys dating, and you don’t even know his house? He calls to visit your place, and probably takes you to a hotel sometimes to link up? Have you thought that the reason that happens is probably because he’s married and obviously can’t take you to his own place?
YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW ANYONE CLOSE TO HIM
I have dated, and I don’t remember being uncomfortable with allowing my friends meet my woman. The reason is because I wanted them to meet the person I was serious about. She meant a lot to me, so we needed to get to that level.
It doesn’t have to be his family, it could be his friends, but when he doesn’t do that, it suggests he has something to hide.