No one ever truly knows the reasons people cheat because they’ll cheat, and still return to you after it all. So we always are stuck wondering why it might have happened. Anyway, here are some of the reasons believed to be behind infidelity and unfaithfulness in relationships and marriages.
THE NEED FOR THE THRILL
It’s quite unfortunate, but true. The moment you no longer light your partner’s fire, there’s a strong possibility that they will look elsewhere for someone or something to bring back the adrenaline rush. Remain adventurous and keep your significant other guessing your next gesture/move, and they’ll most likely never have a reason to step outside of the relationship.
THE NEED FOR MORE
To be honest, sometimes it isn’t even about you or anyone around you, but them totally.
Sometimes, your partner just has a standard they expect you to meet, and when you don’t, it spells the end. Perhaps, they have a relationship they idolize, and want theirs to live up to so badly or they simply expected more from their significant other and they aren’t fulfilling those desires. Communication is key and could help here. Talk more to your partner, and find out what truly makes them happy.
This might sound silly to some, but this really is sometimes all it takes for your lady to step out.
It isn’t even a case of you hanging out with your friends for a single night, but it can take place over time. If you don’t nurture your relationship, you can expect your significant other to find her needed attention elsewhere.
As a human, you can only do so much in order to raise the self-esteem of your partner and significant other, but they too have a responsibility of uplifting themselves as well.
Sadly, some men and women sometimes, use their sexual prowess and behavior as a Band-Aid to cover up their low self-esteem at times. For a person like this, there’s isn’t much you can do, and my advice is to quit them.
Stress can sometimes lead people to do things they ordinarily wouldn’t do. It can come in form of excessive pressure at the office or even pressure from the significant other. Communication is important. Always talk to your partner. Find out when they’re going through a tough time, so you help them through it.
THE ABSENCE OR LACK OF INTIMACY
Sometimes, a lot of us get caught up in a repetitive routine day in and day out and forget that our significant other has emotional needs, especially when we’re embedded in a long-term relationship. Make an effort to take him/her out to a quiet dinner, find a romantic setting to get lost in, or simply just touch them with tenderness. Without any type of intimacy, you can’t exactly fault your partner if they decide to step out sooner or later in search of the same.
Abuse, whether it be verbal or physical, is unacceptable in a relationship, and being simply verbally abusive can cause a person to search elsewhere for support and love. No one wants to be with someone who’s genuinely mean at all, so a partner can choose to step out on their abusive significant other. Support and love is important.
If your significant other lives far away or has to travel for work constantly, and takes long work trips out of town, or works far from home or where you reside, there’s a strong possibility that his/her physical needs aren’t being met. They might seek to replenish those sexual desires outside of your relationship.
Stay in touch. Talk and arrival at a visitation formula that would work for the both of you.
LACK OF SEX
Surprisingly, in marriages, a lot of men admit to being sex starved, and some women are also sex-starved by their husbands. This can lead to them going out to satisfy their sexual urge if care isn’t taken.
POOR SEX LIFE
When the sex in your marriage is one-sided or totally boring, and a repetition of the same things over and over, it’s likely to push someone who craves more adventure and creativity to look elsewhere for the thrill. You should try to understand your partner more sexually. What do they like? How do they like it?
It’s totally illogical, but true. We humans can be devious and can do almost anything to get a point across sometimes, even if that means cheating on our significant other. This will most likely happen if the significant other hasn’t remained faithful too. So I think the best thing is to ensure you’re keeping your end of the agreement, and then, hope for the best.
Cheating is bad and we’ll always preach against it. No matter the reason, there’s no excuse. It’s better to be single than cheat in a relationship. It’s cowardice if you asked me.