I know the headline is a tad confusing. ‘Partner’s, ‘lover’ — what is the difference? Aren’t they supposed to mean the same thing? Well, they really should, but they don’t.
A partner isn’t just a lover, they’re that person that know their responsibility to you, and are willing to accept it completely. For a partner, it isn’t just about dating, it’s about understanding that you aren’t just lovers, but more than that – you are two people who have similar goals, and perhaps different ones too, but would support each other through it. A lover will love you, but is that all you should get from your relationship with them?
Well, let us look at some more of the things that make a partner more important than a lover.
NO COMPATIBILITY CONFUSION
A partner does not really bother about us being compatible or whether I love her but she is more concerned about what we stand to benefit from each other. We are not parasitic but symbiotic in our partnership and both of us have something we bring to the table.
LESS EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT
Love is good and beautiful, and all, but sometimes, it can get in the way of making healthy decision for oneself and the relationship.
With a partner, you’re both ready without being melodramatic…you are not controlled by your hearts, instead, you use your heads. You see what you want in each other, ask the right questions and do due diligence to be sure, and you get it on without fear. You take the relationship as a deal and not an unrealistic love affair.
COMMUNICATION IS MORE SINCERE
You’re not business partners, but like them, you can voice your concerns about the relationship without fear or being sentimental or emotional…communication is more frank and sincere.
SEX IS BETTER
Sex is more pleasurable because you get it when the other person is ready unlike what you have in most cases where people think it’s obligatory to provide it on demand. And even if you are stripped away the sexual part of your relationship, you’d still be best friends.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO PRETEND TO BE LOVED
You can simply be yourself, because you’re more desired and appreciated in a realistic manner than you would be when you have to pretentiously go out of your way trying to impress the one you love. It’s about what you bring to the table, not emotions.
You actually want to spend time with them. A lot of time. You feel more at peace than you do anything else. The core of your relationship is very calm, knowing there isn’t a hectic need to prove anything to anyone.