If we’re all a little more careful, we can avoid settling with the wrong person. Marriage isn’t do or die, take your time to learn who wants to take you on as their partner. And that way, we can all avoid more regrets. Ladies, here are some important things you should avoid in your potential husband.
You can’t always tell when a person is faithful, really, but I think we can at least try to make sure we’re on the safe side. Ask the right questions, keep your eyes out for suspicious activity. A cheater can ruin you more than a bullet. It’s difficult to fix the trauma it comes with.
Age isn’t maturity. I can be 40 and be a fool. Look out for someone who is emotionally mature enough to lead the way and teach you to be better in your marriage. Don’t settle for someone you have to show and teach everything, but never learn from. Without emotional maturity, it’s hard to survive a marriage because you wouldn’t even know how to handle issues when they show up.
YOUR HEART REALLY BEATS FOR HIM
There’s a huge difference between love and infatuation. Some of us mistake them for the same thing. Infatuation cannot stand the test of time, love can. Why do you want to be with that man? How does he make you feel? Do you see yourself still loving him as hard in 5 years?
WHAT DOES HE DO FOR A LIVING?
Just because he has a fancy house and car doesn’t mean he’s clean and without a baggage. Look into his career. What does he do to earn his living? Criminal work can ruin your life, don’t forget that. It’s also important to be sure you can cope with the requirements of his line of work.
WHAT ARE HIS ADDICTIONS?
Everyone has something they’re addicted to. Some are sex, others lies, alcohol, drugs, etc. Whatever it is, just make sure it’s something you can cope with. Don’t get involved with someone who drinks uncontrollably; he’ll assault you under the influence. Drug addicts are bad news too. Find out what it is, and decide for yourself the healthy path.
WHAT’S HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS MOTHER?
It’s a proven fact that men who are very respectful to their mothers are the best husbands because they often extend that courtesy to the other women in their lives.