Understanding is key in a relationship, and in its absence, nothing works, and the relationship is as good as impossible. Some of us already have people who we like as much as they like us, but we’re yet to start something because we’re not sure who they are.
If you’re one of those people, then, you need to check out the remaining part of this post for ways you can understand that guy/ lady better.
LOOK INTO THEIR BACKGROUND
The experiences a person has on their way to maturity go a long way in shaping who they really do become eventually. Someone who grew up in a troubled home may turn out troubled, unlike someone who didn’t. Someone who watched one of their parent dehumanise the other might feel less respect for the responsible gender unless they are strong emotionally. So it’s important to do that check just so you know something about their upbringing.
Also, it is a good idea to ask friends and those around them questions about your admirer’s personality. If they like you, they’ll definitely tell you a thing or two that will help build an opinion of who they really are.
DIG INTO HIS PAST RELATIONSHIP
I wouldn’t say ask them, because they’ll probably lie to you to seem perfect, so I suggest you ask those around him too. Ask to know certain important things about their previous relationship, like who they dated, how long it lasted, and why they broke up. You don’t want to be the one suffering the same problems the ex ran away from.
CHECK FOR HOW THEY TREAT YOU
The real test of a person’s feelings toward another is in how much value they place on that person and keeping them happy, and value is measured in time when it comes to a relationship. How much time do they dedicate to you off their busy schedule? Are they readily available? Do they go out of their way to make you happy? What about sacrifice and compromise? If these things are lacking, love will be lacking too.
You don’t need to date them to know this. The simple things aren’t that difficult to observe.
GIVE THEM A CHANCE
I can say all I want from now till eternity, but the truth remains that you never really know unless you want to know. You can’t achieve unless you make a move, and there’s no better way of getting to know someone better than by giving them a chance. Take a chance on the person, but be careful so you’re not taken for granted.