Sex for most married people tends to take the back seat in the scheme of things. It’s always about the children, and the family. Heck, sometimes, couples even sleep apart from each other after a few months/years of being together. You may have a genuine reason for that, but I’m not sure it’s a healthy arrangement for your marriage and your health.
Sex has a lot of benefits, and being married shouldn’t deny you of them. Take a look at some of them.
1. It builds your libido. Now, there are people who don’t really want to have sex often because they’re not interested in it naturally. For people like this, part of the advice from experts is to try to do it as often as possible to change their feelings towards it. It may not be easy at first, so they take something to enhance it, but over time, you find that they grow into it naturally because they would have come to like it.
2. Sex makes you look younger. The common thinking is it makes one look older, but that is untrue.
Research presented at the 2013 British Psychological Society annual meeting found that study subjects who had frequent sex (at least three times a week for people in their 40s and 50s) look between four and seven years younger than those who had less.
Why? Lead author David Weeks, PhD, suspects the endorphins and feel-good chemicals released during intimacy, plus sex’s beneficial effects on sleep and stress levels. Also, it helps increase blood flow, and regulates hormones, which makes the skin look better.
3. It’ll strengthen your union even more. Oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone,” is released during physical intimacy and skin-to-skin contact—and it can help increase romantic feelings between you and your partner.
If you want to increase your bond, you must also cuddle after sex. A University of Toronto study found that couples who were asked to spend extra time together after sex—kissing, talking, and being affectionate—reported higher levels of satisfaction with their sex lives and with their relationships.
4. Sex may increase your lifespan. Several studies have found connections between a busier sex life and a longer life in general, most notably a Duke University study that took place between 1955 and 1980. Researchers found that for men, frequency of intercourse was related to longer life spans; while for women, enjoyment of intercourse was the most significant factor.
5. Sex helps relieve pain. People often skip sex because of headaches, but according to a 2013 German study, going through with it may actually help them feel better. When study volunteers chose to have sex during a headache episode, about 60% of migraine sufferers and 30% of cluster headache sufferers reported partial or total relief.
Endorphins released during orgasm, as well as increased blood flow to the genital area, likely play a role in sex’s pain-relieving power.
6. Sex may save you from cancer. Some studies have suggested that men who ejaculate more frequently may have a reduced risk of prostate cancer—although the difference appears to be very small, and others haven’t found a conclusive link.
The benefits may be clearer for breast cancer prevention, however: A French study found that women who had sex at least once a month were less likely to develop breast cancer than those who didn’t. And while the disease is rare in men, those who orgasm less than six times a month appear to be at increased risk of breast cancer compared to those who do so more often, according to a Greek study.
7. It helps burn calories. I can’t think of a better way to lose weight really. If you have a partner with you always, and you’re looking to shed some of that excessive weight, why not try sex? It’s a physical activity, so, you sweat, and engage your muscles, which is very good for shedding weight.