A woman has the power to build her home or destroy it, and surprisingly many women choose to destroy their marriage.
Your actions would do one of two things to your marriage; it could either make it better or cause it to have cracks — and when your marriage starts having cracks, it’s usually downhill from there.
These are ten of the major ways women destroy their marriage.
1. WITHHOLD INTIMACY AND AFFECTION
Some women tend to hold intimacy and affection from their man; they choose when to be intimate, when to show him care and when to have sex with him. This is clearly wrong and will affect the bond and peace between you and your partner on the long run.
2. BEING TOO HARD TO PLEASE
Some women choose not to be happy at certain times and for no reason; they just want their man to do something huge for them before they become happy. This isn’t only selfish, but it’s an act that will make the marriage an unhappy one.
3. HURTING THEIR MAN WITH WORDS
This is another area where a lot of women are guilty; they tend to say harsh and hurtful things to their man, without knowing the full extent their words can cause. Those hurtful things you say could leave huge scars in a man’s heart for a very long time — and you wouldn’t even know it.
4. HAVING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
Some women destroy their marriage with their expectations. Women that aren’t realistic and expect things that are farfetched and almost impossible for the man, just for their pleasure destroy their marriage, whether they know this or not. Unrealistic expectations cause undue pressure and undue pressure would cause cracks in your marriage.
5. BEING DISRESPECTFUL
Some women tend to be the boss in their home and relegate their man to be lower than them; they are disrespectful to him, don’t care about what he thinks and just do whatever they like. How then can the marriage be a happy one when the wife is disrespectful? No marriage can survive when there’s disrespect.
6. DEMORALISING HIM
A good woman builds her marriage by being a support system for her man; she’s there for him at his beck and call, and provides that needed emotional support to help him through various challenges. But then, there are women who destroy their marriage by crushing their husband’s spirit with their words and actions.
Some women are good at nagging, complaining and not being appreciative; they do this almost every day and it brings a negative energy to their home and marriage.
8. HANDLING RESOURCES POORLY
Traditionally, a man should be the breadwinner of the home and the woman the manager. But not many women can manage the resources properly. Some women abuse money, spend lavishly and live an extravagant life without caring. Running the home should be a woman’s strong point, and if you can’t do this right, you’re destroying your marriage.
9. BEING SELF-CENTRED
Seeking control, wanting your will alone to be done, caring only about your interests, trying to have your way all the time — all these point to one thing, and that’s self-centredness. It can totally bring your home down.
10. PUTTING YOUR MAN SECOND
This is another area that sends so many negative vibes flowing through a man — when his wife places other things ahead of him and doesn’t make him a priority. Men are also emotional and want to come first in your life, even though they don’t show this.
These are some of the major ways a lot of women destroy their marriage, and when the cracks finally break the home, they become confused at to why it happened.