While disagreements are also part of a healthy relationship, how you handle these disagreements matter.
So many women have ruined their relationships by handling disagreements wrongly.
Below are 7 things you should never say to your man
1. “MY EX USED TO DO IT THIS WAY”
The problem with this statement is that you compare your man with your ex and this is bad for your relationship. When you compare your man with your ex, you make him feel like you haven’t gotten over your ex. Avoid comparing your man with your ex.
2. “MY FRIENDS WARNED ME YOU’D DO THIS”
I hear women say this a lot and it’s not good for your relationship. When you tell your man this, you make him feel the opinion of others dictate your relationship. Never let your man think the opinion of others dictate your relationship. If you have a problem with him, instead of just lashing out and telling him things your friends said about him, focus on the root cause of the problem.
3. “WHY CAN’T YOU BE LIKE…”
I earlier talked about the dangers of comparing your man with your ex. It also doesn’t end there. Avoid comparing your man to your friend’s man or sister’s man. When you do this, you ask him to be someone else. This statement never brings anything positive.
4. “I WISH YOU HAD BETTER FRIENDS”
It’s okay not to like some of your man’s friends but it’s never okay to insult his choice of friends. Never insult his choice of friends and never try to pick his friends for him.
5. “IF YOU LOVE ME, YOU WOULD….”
This is an emotional trap ladies use for their man and it’s so wrong. It’s wrong to put your man in such situations. Doing this will only make your man resent you sooner or later. You won’t like him doing this to you so why do this to him?
6. “YOU NEED TO START ACTING LIKE A MAN”
No man enjoys it when his manhood is called into question. It damages his self-esteem and that ends up damaging your relationship. Never tell your man that he needs to start acting like a man. You won’t get the results you want.
7. “YOU ALWAYS …..” OR “YOU NEVER….”
When you tell your man he always does certain things or he never does certain things, you make your man feel attacked and chances are that he’ll just fire back with all the times he did help. So you end up escalating the problem at hand. So if there is something you feel you would like to address, avoid generalizing and try to focus on the issue at hand.