Selfishness is a common reason so many marriages fail. When both partners tend to be selfish and put themselves first or think mostly of themselves, the marriage might take a bad twist.
Many a time, couples put up selfish acts in their marriages and they don’t even know — rather, they blame each other for their marriage woes.
Do you think you don’t act selfishly in your marriage? Read these tips below and you would be surprised at how selfish you have probably been.
1. POINTING OUT YOUR PARTNER’S BAD MANNERS, WHILE NOT CONSIDERING YOUR OWN
Many are guilty of this in their marriages. Many men and women complain often about their partner’s bad manners that annoy them and forget to think about their own bad manners that probably annoy their partner too. Marriages would be much healthier if both partners also look inward and consider their own bad manners that might be damaging to the marriage.
If couples do this then over 50 percent of problems in the marriage would be solved.
2. RATTING YOUR PARTNER TO ANYONE WHO CARES TO LISTEN
This is really another unfair thing that many married people are guilty of. It doesn’t feel good to always talk about your partner to almost every Tom, Dick and Harry you meet. I’m sure you would also feel terrible if you find out that your partner has been telling the whole neighbourhood of your own flaws.
3. CARING FOR YOUR SEXUAL NEEDS AND NOT YOUR PARTNER’S
Everyone has sexual needs which could be different from one to another. When you are always interested in satisfying your sexual needs and care less about your partner’s, that’s being selfish.
4. BEING OVERLY CRITICAL
There is a difference between being critical and being overly critical — and what a lot of couples do to each other is being overly critical. There are so many ways to get your points across without really bashing your partner — and also, you don’t have to complain and criticise your partner for everything.
5. NOT APPRECIATING THE LITTLE THINGS
This is also another selfish thing many couples are guilty of. People get so used to favours from their partner that they fail to show gratitude. Don’t wait till your partner does a huge thing before you show gratitude.
6. GIVING OTHER THINGS PRIORITY
Placing priorities can also show how selfish couples can be in marriages. Men somehow tend to prioritise their careers and women tend to prioritise their children over their marriage. It isn’t only these two, there are so many other things couples do that show they prioritise those things above their marriage.
7. NOT COMMUNICATING
It shows selfishness when you don’t communicate your needs, your worries, your fears and your concerns to your partner, and you still expect your partner to understand you. Being a mind reader can be such a difficult task that only a few people are good at. You shouldn’t expect your partner to know things that you stuffed in your heart.
Selfishness can be shown in diverse ways, but people tend to look at selfishness from a particular angle. If selfishness supersedes the love and understanding in your marriage, your marriage is bound to fail.