Hello our dear readers and fans, welcome to another lovely edition of our Sunday Love Special (SLS).
Being with a partner who’s extremely busy is a huge possibility; there are so many people out there who are career focused and have little time for any other thing outside their careers. Can you date or marry such a partner?
Read what Drama and Shawn has to say about such a scenario.
Would I date an extremely busy person? Yes. Would I marry such a person? Yes. There is no dating or marriage rule book anywhere, where it’s stipulated that you cannot marry certain kind of people, you can, as long as you feel drawn to them.
The thing about relationship is that it’s always about two people, so there is no way you are going to get things the way you want them all the time. All you can do is learn to compromise and make sacrifice if it means preserving that relationship or marriage.
If I find myself feeling drawn to a woman who is always busy because of the nature of work or career she has chosen, I wouldn’t back away from an opportunity to be with (marry) her because I believe we can make things work out just fine for us both down the line. Like I said, it’s about understanding and sacrifice. As much as I have emotional needs and her job may get in the way of them sometimes, I understand that she loves her job, and she has to work to earn a living. She has her own needs too, and one of them is to do her job. So it would only be very selfish of me to ask her to quit or quarrel with her over the issue. All I can do is make sure we make the most of the (little) time (after work hours, holidays, and occasional breaks from work) we get to spend together because of course, she won’t be busy always. And if we’re married, we could always arrange for a way to take care of the kids when they come. We can hire a nanny or register them at a day care. And if my job gives me more time than her, I could always help with the chores and the kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, it is my wife, children and family we’re talking about. So, it basically boils down to understanding and the readiness to make sacrifices.
It is laughable and morally wrong to refuse to marry a person you love simply because their job doesn’t permit them to spend a lot of time with you, you’d only be punishing yourself in doing so. I know a woman who has to travel all the time because of the nature of her job, but she’s still married with 3 kids and has a supportive husband. It is very possible to have a life like that too if you can be understanding and see things from the other person’s perspective sometimes.
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