Welcome to another special edition of our bi-weekly column — Sunday Love Special.
There have been quite a number of viral videos of late, with the woman proposing marriage to her man. In all the videos I’ve watched, the man said yes — meaning, the men also had marriage at the back of their minds. This is looking like a trend that would soon be popular in time to come.
So, do you think it’s okay for the woman to propose marriage to her man?
Drama and Shawn would share their opinions with us — do feel free to join in if you don’t support their argument.
I wouldn’t say it is morally wrong or out-of-place, but I think it is rather awkward for a woman to ask a man to marry her; it should be the other way round. And I’m not trying to sound chauvinistic or ‘old school’, it’s just that I’m used to seeing and hearing men do the asking, so, it just seems a little awkward for me to have it any other way. But is it wrong or sinful or criminal? — Absolutely not. It’s like a woman asking a man out; it’s basically about how badly you want to have what you like, there’s nothing wrong about that.
The reason I wouldn’t encourage any woman I care about to do something like that though is because I don’t think the world is exactly ready for that sort of change just yet. As much as some hate to admit it, the world still views certain tasks or duties (obligations) as strictly for men, and marriage proposal is one of such duties.
I’ve seen the way some societies frown at women who ask men out, as if it were a sin or crime, and sometimes, branding women like that ‘desperadoes’. So that is one reason. The other is that this thought pattern has affected a lot of men, so they have no respect for women like these because they feel they’re desperate and ‘cheap’. It would be disastrous for any woman to get into an awful marriage by her own doing. I’ve seen cases of relationships where women did the asking, and it just didn’t end well because they were under-appreciated by the men.
So, as much it is not wrong to go for something you want so badly, I wouldn’t advise a woman to propose to her man, no matter what. If you love him so much that you want him in your life forever, wait till he’s ready, and if you can’t, walk into the arms of the one who is. Of course, there is always an exception to every rule. There are women who proposed, and are successfully married, but it’s just one in many cases. Most of the time, marriages like that eventually turn sour. So just allow him ask.
Click below to read Shawn’s opinion