I get surprised when ladies complain that they hardly have men coming their way; I mean in this 21st century you can’t do simple things to get men notice you? That’s unbelievable.
The only tactic some women know in order to attract a man is by being flirty; that really is only a tactic that would probably get you to a man’s bed but would hardly get you to his heart.
Most ladies complain that they don’t get to meet men who would want a serious relationship with them, especially the kind of relationship that would lead to marriage. They eventually go on blaming their looks, the society, men at large and many even blame it on a spell that men don’t come their way — forgetting that the only person that can really stop you from being who you want to be is YOU.
This piece is for that lady that doesn’t seem to get men (good men especially coming their way).
8 things you should know
1. TAKE YOURSELF OUT
You can’t be home every moment of your life or probably live a double lifestyle of work and home and expect to get really noticed by men. They might probably notice you but you don’t give them that desire to come up to you with the kind of rigid lifestyle you live. This isn’t the 15th century where everyone knew almost everyone in a community; there are about 7 billion people in the world, with over 3 billion women. Take yourself out, most times alone, have a good time with yourself and feel good about it — trust me, men love when ladies do this.
2. HAVE THAT HAPPY FACE
It doesn’t just end by going out. If your looks send an angry message then you would probably get the men scared of coming over to your table. Put up a smiling face, be happy and the men would come through — no matter how unattractive you might think you are. Let me let you in on a secret — every man loves a lady that smiles and that’s happy.
3. LOOK GOOD
There is no excuse for not looking good, every man loves a lady that looks good. Even if you don’t know how to look good, you can learn how to. Learn to look good always; if you cannot learn anything tangible from Kim Kardashian then you should learn this – looking good always matters.
4. BE CONFIDENT
If you don’t believe in yourself then no man will. If you say to yourself that you are unattractive then that’s a sign of not having confidence. Love yourself, believe in yourself and most men out there would. Men love and see through a lady that’s confident.
5. BE CHEERFUL AND KNOW HOW TO RELATE
In the previous tips, I wrote about taking yourself out, having a happy face and looking good. In all honesty, that would bring the man to you but it wouldn’t make him stay glued to you if this tip isn’t taken serious. Learn to be cheerful and also know how to relate with people; learn to at least keep a simple conversation; it always starts with a conversation. A simple conversation with a man can make him desperate for you.
6. NEVER EVER BE DESPERATE
Never be desperate about having a man; your desperation would scare him off. Men notice when a woman is desperate, and don’t also make the mistake of settling for someone you don’t like because you are desperate — you might regret it in the end.
7. YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS
This is one area where ladies make a mistake. Your mode of attraction doesn’t really have to be by seduction. There is a popular saying that ‘the way you dress is the way you would be addressed’; your dressing can make a man be attracted to you just for sexual purposes or because he really sees something in you that attracts him which he hasn’t figured out yet. A guy once told me ‘every man wants a lady that’s decent but a whore in bed for him’, and that to an extent is true. Dress beautiful and you would leave men wondering.
8. BE FREE AND HAVE A GOOD TIME
Live your life, be free with people, be free with yourself, know when to set boundaries too and I think you won’t believe the way people (men especially) would want to be with you.
Stop blaming a spell, stop blaming luck, stop blaming men, stop blaming your looks, stop the blame game — love yourself, put these tips into reality, and you would have a variety of men to choose from, because they would come in their droves.