Compatibility issue is one that has destroyed a lot of relationships; if not detected early, couples go on to marry each other without knowing that they have to solve a deep problem which could tear down their relationship.
I did an article on 8 signs you and your partner aren’t compatible, and I saw an interesting comment which I felt the need to react to. The comment pointed at a highly important question – what should people do if they are incompatible, especially if they have been in the relationship for too long.
To find a solution to any problem, the first step is to know what the problem is; many partners have compatibility issues and have no idea that they aren’t compatible, and this is an even bigger issue. If you and your partner can identify compatibility as the cause of your relationship problems then solving that issue even if you have been in the relationship for too long wouldn’t be that much of a problem, if you are both dedicated to the relationship.
I truly believe that compatibility issues could be solved and I would explain how.
1. CONFLICT OF INTEREST IS THE FIRST PROBLEM TO SOLVE
Naturally, compatibility issues is mostly caused by conflict of interest; the man might want this and the woman might want the other, the woman might see things this way and the man wouldn’t; this might look ordinary but it could lead to major problems in a relationship. One hard but easy way to solve this is if one or both couples can learn to back down, relationship isn’t a war but compatibility issues can make it turn to war and you shouldn’t let this happen.
2. RELATIONSHIP COUNSELORS/THERAPISTS ARE REALLY USEFUL
People sometimes underrate the importance of therapists when it comes to relationships; therapists can help make a difference. Sometimes the cracks caused by incompatibility might just be too huge for couples to solve on their own; talking to a therapist can help take away some of the pressure that’s boiling within, and that would help a lot. When incompatibility has eaten deep into that relationship for too long, two best things to do is to have the right mentality and then you both should visit a therapist.
3. LEARN TO DO THINGS TOGETHER
Every relationship needs togetherness in order to be successful; a successful relationship isn’t a relationship that has lasted for long but a successful relationship is a relationship which both partners are happy; togetherness can do much more than you can imagine and with togetherness incompatibility can be solved. This article on togetherness would reveal so many important things togetherness can do in a relationship, of which one is to build understanding and understanding is highly needed if incompatibility should be solved.
Patience is a virtue and it isn’t just an ordinary virtue; it plays an important role in solving compatibility issues. When the rebuilding process in a relationship starts, you would definitely need to be patient with your partner else everything might just be in vain. Do not get easily frustrated, do not expect an instant change under a short moment, patience would be highly needed to solve compatibility issues.
5. LET LOVE HAVE ITS PLACE
If love brought you and your partner together then surely with dedication incompatibility could be solved over time. One huge mistake people make is thinking that falling in love is everything; falling in love is something but it isn’t everything; you should be able to allow the love in your hearts be put to use, if that love in your heart isn’t put to use then other negative emotions could overshadow it. For a rebuilding process to be successful then a lot boils down to how much you allow love to work.
I must add that compatibility issues can’t be solved by one partner but two dedicated partners; though a change can start with one partner and it might just rub on to the other and through this the major problems in that relationship would be solved.
It is also good to know how compatible you and your partner are when the relationship is still new so that proper actions could be taken then rather than leaving it to linger till the relationship gets so serious, by then it would definitely take a lot.